In this rapidly changing era, many people have experienced the process of moving from pain to acceptance. This is not merely a personal emotional journey, but a story of growth and understanding. It reminds us that the passage of time can make everything fade, allowing those things that once tore our hearts apart to eventually become the past with ease and relief. In life, there are too many moments when we are trapped in a whirlpool of emotions, unable to extricate ourselves. Often, we feel anxious about things beyond our control, such as lost love, missed opportunities, or the unavoidable pain and setbacks in life. But have you realized that life itself is a healing journey? What we can do is not to escape or regret, but to accept, to let go, and ultimately find our own balance and peace.
Definition and Significance of Recovery
In academia and theoretical circles, there is currently no unified conclusion regarding the recovery and cure of symptoms. However, from the perspective of Ming therapy, we can understand it as follows: recovery means that after experiencing the lowest point of symptom pain or multiple symptom relapses, the patient can still persist on the right path, that is, "doing what needs to be done." When a patient develops stable behavioral habits, builds confidence in coping with symptom fluctuations, and can navigate life with symptoms and pain, they can be considered to have essentially achieved recovery.
▲ The Meaning and Misconceptions of Recovery
Recovery is not merely the disappearance of symptoms. In fact, emotions such as fear, anxiety, and depression are unavoidable in normal life. Therefore, defining recovery as the disappearance of symptoms may mislead our actions and hinder true recovery. The true meaning of recovery is returning to a state of equanimity, that is, no longer clinging to choices between pain and pleasure, but rather accepting things as they are and focusing on the present moment. This state, reflected internally, is the complete acceptance of everything that happens and exists, seeing them as a natural flow.
Establishing the correct concepts of recovery and healing is key to taking the right path and achieving recovery. It is not only a guide for returning to a normal life but also a beacon for our souls.
▲ Dual Healing of Body and Mind
On the journey of deep healing, he finally had the opportunity to confront the infant who had endured a "struggle for survival" in his mother's womb—the self that had exerted all its strength to enter the world but had never experienced gentle treatment. This direct confrontation itself is a form of redemption, providing a release for long-suppressed grievances, anger, and sorrow, allowing him to realize that his current pain is not unfounded, but stems from the trauma of rejection in his early life.
The healing process is also a process of remembrance. He remembrances the self he was never accepted by his mother, the years of struggling in loneliness, and the vitality robbed of his life by illness. Under Teacher Shi Wei's guidance, he engages in dialogue with the trauma of his family of origin, not to blame his mother, but to try to understand the helplessness and limitations women in that era might have faced. More importantly, he learns how to reconcile with that "unexpected" past.
Through confronting the pain of the past and with Teacher Shi Wei's guidance, the student gradually achieves spiritual healing, and his body gradually regains vitality as his emotions are channeled, achieving inner peace and a new life. Regarding the healing of physical ailments, Teacher Shi Wei, drawing on his extensive experience at the Guangzhou Cancer Association, intervenes from a psychological perspective. He is dedicated to helping students rebuild their relationship with themselves and transform negative thinking, such as from "I shouldn't be alive" to "My existence itself has meaning," and from "I am not worthy of being loved" to "I can actively create warmth."
Conclusion
If you are also experiencing a low point in your life, please remember to give yourself some time and space to feel this pain. Don't rush to escape, but try to find opportunities for growth within it. As the old proverb says, "If winter comes, can spring be far behind?" When we bravely face our inner selves, we will find that those obstacles that we once thought were insurmountable are not as terrible as we imagined.